Ugh! I Hate Weddings.
Weddings are beautiful, believe me. But the social part, not so much!
Anytime I see some wedding pictures or happen to attend one, I end up having a love-hate relationship with it. I enjoy the scenery but I’m always over it twenty minutes in.
Well, it’s because my introverted tendencies always come into play.
Here’s why:
#1: I don’t like being the center of attention for far too long, and I wish this is something I can avoid on my wedding day.
#2: The loud music and having to dance in front of a bunch of half-strangers. Just, no.
#3: What happens when my social battery runs down? Do I just pretend like I’m still having a good time and put on a fake smile? Or do I show my emotions and risk having some wedding photos I might dislike later on?
These reasons have caused me to ponder. Did the people who invented weddings consider introverts, who make up almost half of the world’s population? I guess not.
Then again, you might be thinking—well, it’s your wedding, you can choose to do it anyway for you like
Well, this isn’t always the case when you have extroverted relatives, who are looking forward to having a good time at your wedding. But, for sure, you can moderate it, which has led me to think of ways to live through my wedding day.
P.S. I got this idea during the pandemic when I saw what people called a ‘lockdown wedding’.
It was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. This was majorly because it mostly had 3-5 people in attendance, and the couple could be in their relaxed, most comfortable state, and focus on the moment they decide to spend the rest of their lives together.
I then put together a list that I feel might help, if you an introvert like me, thinking of the dilemma of surviving through your wedding.
#1: Have a guest list:
For me, I’m going to be a bit extreme when it comes to this step. I don’t have a lot of friends, so I’m not expecting a lot of people. More importantly, I don't want to see strange faces at my wedding. I also discussed a crazy idea with my partner (who’s an extrovert but values his personal space). He brought up the idea of hiding the venue. So, if people ask where it is, we’ll tell them we’ll let them know ; meanwhile, only those on the guest list will have the actual location. It’s a great way to avoid wedding crashers, especially if you live in a part of the world where people LOVE attending weddings they weren’t invited to.
#2: Get a wedding planner.:
I came across some wedding pictures on my Facebook feed recently and neither of the couple was smiling. it was so hilarious and sad at the same time. one of the things that can cause that is having to handle different logistics when you’re supposed to be having the time of your life. As for me, I don’t want to know if anything is going wrong. I want to be at ease and entirely comfortable so that that day can be memorable.
#3: Get a good Master of Ceremony (that won’t stress you out!):
I’ve been at a wedding where the M.C. brought a lot of social games that were just too much by my standards. No, I’m not going to act out how I intend to make my husband happy if he’s having a bad day, in front of a bunch of strangers. Also, the M.C. told a lot of dud jokes. It made me realize how important having a good one is because I certainly won’t pretend to laugh if your jokes aren't funny.
#4: Plan to have a good time with your spouse:
There tend be a lot of activities that indirectly only entertain the guests, when the couple should be the ones entertained. After all, it's your wedding. So for me, if me and my partner aren’t enjoying ourselves, I don’t think it's worth it.
Over to you…
What are your thoughts on wedding celebrations? Do you have any crazy wedding stories to share? Drop your comments below.
